Day 4

The person who doesn't respond has all of the power. I am trying to figure how to apply this to my toxic relationship. when the perpetrator makes an attach seeking a response. It is important to have no response at all. She called and told me to call him because he was upset and couldn't sleep because he wanted the reality to be different and he suggested that she call. She called and said mean things, totally predictable,and my reaction was predictable. I was in a double bind and called thinking that I could call without responding. But of course, there was an opportunity to respond and I took it rather than taking the road less traveled. I should have not responded and called him when I had something to say. Because I reacted (responded) it is hard now to call when I want to rather than wait.