Dearest Liz, You are right. I do treat you different

than the other girls when it comes to discipline. I have been thinking about it a lot lately. Especially since you have been gone and the girls rooms are messy and they do not pick up after themselves. Once I started thinking about this I promised myself that things are going to be different when you come home. I also talked to the girls right away. I told them that I thought that I was harder on you, or that I let all the girls get away with being disrespectful to our belongings but got mad at you more sometimes.

There are a lot of reasons for this happening. You contribute more because you take more food back to your room and you make a bigger mess in your room. But what I realized was that no matter if you are messy more or less than the girls, everyone should treat their rooms and the play room the same. Also, I think that the way you react is different. Maybe this is the way that you have always behaved and we do not like the way you react to us. We are hoping that you will learn a better way to talk to us and react to us when you are upset or when we ask you to do something you do not want to do.

So this morning, while the girl's rooms were messy and they had not put away the toys, I told them that from now on they had to be treated the same and that I would expect everyone to make sure to take care of the toys and their rooms. So, when you come home, we are all going to be treated the same. I want you to know that I love you and miss you more than you know and when you come home, we are all going to treat each other with respect, including how I treat all of you kids. You are my world and and I want you to learn how to talk to me better and to be able to express your feelings and not be angry when you express your feelings and for all of us to talk about how we all should treat each other and listen to each other's feelings.
I love you mom!!